Childhood Abuse, Spiritual Abuse, and the Need for Emotional Intelligence
It starts with what’s called emotional intelligence which is the ability to monitor one’s own emotions and the emotions of others with the purpose to “identify and use this information to guide one’s own thoughts and behaviors” (Zhao et al., 2020, p. 2022). In other words, emotional intelligence is the competence to sit down and break down the feelings one has, as they experience them, and to note the situations that draw them out.
The Blessing of Love, Faith, and Hope
So the obvious question is: how exactly does love, faith, and hope replace shame, pain, and fear? The first thing to realize is that true love, true hope, and true faith is authored by the One from whom it originates. In other words, we cannot manufacture these three inside of ourselves, they must come from God directly and be defined by Him. It’s a tricky thing though because so many use love, hope, and faith within a framework of the Curse and that’s why many of us don’t experience the peace that we should.